I do my best not to give advice because I know advice is wholly based on the experience of the adviser and doesn’t always translate well to the receiver. My daughters will laugh at that because I’m full of advice and will toss it out with little encouragement.
When I see the word ADVICE – I see AD and VICE. So it was interesting to get a message from a young man seeking my advice. Whether I see the AD as an acronym for “advertisement” or “addition” will vary according to the VICE in question.
I’m often approached for advice and do my best to do a whole lot of listening before I speak. It is in the listening that an adviser will get a clue about what the querant really wants to hear. What my daughters didn’t notice is that prior to offering my advice I’d gotten an ear full, maybe for weeks, of the advice they wanted to hear. All I gave them was what they already knew in a blunt statement but they had the bonus of blaming my advice for their choice.
When my advice is sought I try to focus on my role as AD VISOR and a VISOR is a protective shield from damaging brilliance.