There is a phrase in the movie EverAfter where the question is posed, “A bird may love a fish – but where would they live?” I always felt this applies to Ed and I. He’s the wing nut, I’m the water rat.
Ed took this picture from his open cockpit bi-wing airplane. We don’t live there, yet. It’s currently a weekend/summer place for us.
The appeal of the lake is obvious, for me. The horizontal rod in this picture is in line with the landing strip of a small private airpark. This is the answer to the environment where a bird and a fish can coexist. I could spend the entire day in my kayak, or swimming when the water is warm. He will cut half of the grass, in front of his airplane hangar, then go fly in the sky, then finish the lawn chores later. He prefers his fish in packages from the grocery store.
“I write, he flies.” Is how I’ve explained why someone like me, who is not into airplanes and has vertigo issues, knows so much about aviation. It’s also why I never had issues with the hours Ed spent with his airplanes and pilot buddies. That was golden writing time for me. Plus, pilots are interesting characters. Ed and I usually spend our wedding anniversary at an airshow.
When we returned from our weekend haven today – I saw, “This Post is For the Ones You Love” -by literary agent Rachelle Gardner – in my reader feed. As I read it, I laughed. There are many comparisons between being the spouse of a writer to being the spouse of a private pilot.
[Her closing statement.] “Most writers are smart, passionate, interesting, driven, and eager to share their words with the world. (And yes, okay, a little moody and possibly bi-polar.) Enjoy the fact that they have depth and ambition, and something to say!
And definitely make sure you have your own hobbies, passions and interests. You’re going to need them.”
Excellent advice for anyone who is in a relationship with someone who is passionate about something. Nurture your own passions.
Also in Rachelle’s post:
These points about writers also apply to hobby pilots – except writing is a whole lot less expensive!
1. You can’t change them. Most writers (pilots) can’t help it—they are what they are. … To try and get them to stop writing (flying) would be like taking away their oxygen. Don’t do this.
4. Speaking of the cost…money is a sensitive topic for a writer.(And pilots as their airplanes need lots of maintenance and repair – you can’t just pull off to the side of the road if the engine sputters.)
7. And it IS work. Paid or not, writing is difficult labor. (Tapping keys on a keyboard may not be as physical as flying an airplane but the mental engagement is the same.)
Pilots and writers are both rare breeds who speak their own language. We thrive in environments foreign, or uncomfortable, to the other.
Ed and I have owned eight single engine aircraft, and five different types of water craft. We’ve moved seven times, have lived on both coasts of the country, and have an amazing family.
But – we’ve had the same bedroom furniture for 32 years. Hmm, everything else has been upgraded…