Wedding Reviews

Tis time for fun memories.  Most of you know I study romantic comedies from classics like, “When Harry Met Sally” to recent one’s like “The Big Wedding” and whatever catches my attention.

In decades past, romance novels were practically required to have a Happily Ever After ending often portrayed as a wedding. Fortunately the stories have changed as readers’ expectations are not always favorable toward weddings. Actually, sometimes weddings are the worst! Drama! Emotions running wild! Even when everything goes great there are layers of stories behind the photos. So for your amusement I’m sharing tidbits of three weddings from the past decade when I was the mother-of-the-bride.

The Big Wedding was the most recent.  The father of the groom is a wealthy businessman with two sons and he wanted an EVENT so he paid for doubling the guest list in addition to an excessive amount of booze. The bridesmaids all loved their dresses but looking past the royal blue for the day, one woman is a CPA, another a LMT, one blond is a bank loan manager the other a beauty consultant. There’s also an optician, a cupcake baker, and a HR manager.  The men represent a broad flavor of careers from minister to stock broker, computer sales, food services, construction, and more.  The bridal party also included two flower girls, a ring bearer, and a junior bridesmaid who escorted the dog.

Adding to the story of this (above) picture, one woman is newly pregnant and kept it secret until stripping out of her dress after the pictures were done so she could breathe. Sadly, the groom’s beloved grandfather died only weeks before this event but there was a tribute shrine and tearful toasts to him at the reception.

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The Outdoor/Theme Wedding happened on a Tuesday afternoon so the bride and groom could always celebrate their anniversary on the Summer Solstice. Men In Kilts! The men were all part of a competitive band in their younger days. Though this was a tight budget affair, the groom is also a professional chef so the food was outstanding. The location included a large pond with pedal boats and the bride did pedal around the pond in her wedding gown.  They had originally planned to wed in a rustic campground in the mountains but the roads were washed out during the winter and a new location had to be found three months before the day, and it was so much better! Guests came to Oregon from Ohio and Alaska and it was the only sunny day during the entire month of June.

The Small Wedding was the first for our family and riddled with drama; recent funerals, uninvited guests, emotional issues! Fortunately the actual event was delightful and everyone had a great time.  Even now, ten years later, we still cringe at some of the memories. The main story worth repeating about this event is that after the honeymoon the groom had a growth on his neck checked then immediately began treatment for aggressive lymphoma. Yes, he survived and has been cancer free since, they are still thriving and darling together.

It is impossible for me to look at a wedding photo and not wonder about all the stories behind the smiles. As big a deal as a wedding might be as a “rite of passage” event in our journey through life, it’s really just a party and not a HEA. The marriage deserves the celebration but it’s not an ending in any way, it’s the beginning of a grand adventure.

This is why I love reading and writing romance novels, and the requirement of studying romantic comedy films. Love happens all around us and the stories are limitless and unique!

the male view

Failure to Launch and Made of Honor are two romantic comedies written, directed, and produced by men. I recommend them for the entertainment value and especially to authors who want to study the male approach to romance. 😀

It’s fascinating to watch the body language as these 30+ men try to explore emotional issues with buddies while rock climbing, playing basketball, and at sporting events. This attention to competition resonates to the way a man wants to solve problems, or fix things, with the woman in their life. The action distraction is a great example of Mars energy while the women in these movies all communicate with a musical, intellectual and artistic Venus flavor.

Age also has an impact on the male perspective as Nathan Bransford blogged about with his How Art Changes With Us post that he begins with “I recently rewatched the movies “Before Sunrise” and “Before Sunset,” which, if you haven’t seen or heard of them, are rather amazing.”

I have not watched either movie, yet, but Nathan explains that these two movies are the same relationship story set nine years apart. What makes this post a must read (even if you don’t watch the movies) is that Nathan explores how his perspective on the relevance of these two movies has changed in relation to his age and life experiences. He shows that a good story remains unchanged through time, but the reader experience is always unique. It’s a great male perspective about relationship stories. (He’s in his 30’s and exceptionally articulate.)

The example of a male view in my life right now is a bathroom remodel has begun. Ed has some vacation days to use before the end of the year and he’s often viewed long holiday weekends as a good time to begin a home construction project. There were a few years when his projects and my holiday party preparations overlapped and caused concerns that there was sawdust in the wineglasses. But our family gathering has shifted to our daughter’s home this year and the construction mess will be resigned to an upper corner of our house.

Our view of home improvements has shifted as we have tucked years and life experiences under our belts. He enjoys the projects because he likes working with his hands and his work is good. But we are less interested in the improvement to our lifestyle in this house and more focused on the resale benefit someday.

I do enjoy the view as men do physical work or engage in sporting competitions and will watch these two movies again before I return them to the library. I’ve realized that conversations between 30+ men attempting to create a relationship with a woman they desire are fascinating. But when a man is content in his relationship for years, his conversations with his buddies (topics like work, politics, investments, and bodily functions) are not as entertaining.

This means, I’m most interested in man-speak when my view is handsome and athletic 30-year-old men who are wondering how to please a woman, and exploring emotional issues, while flexing well tanned biceps and abs.

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